As for what facilitates the transition, your social network can play a big role.
Hanging out in a group with friends can take the pressure off “dating” and help potential lovers feel more comfortable.
We cannot fall into this trap, but there is also a good kind of comfort. The good kind of comfort is essential to being honest and open with each other. You will be faced with problems and challenges that you need to figure out Even regular everyday tasks like piecing schedules together and figuring out who is going to pick the kids up from soccer practice which day, who will have dinner ready, and who will get the dog to the vet – become a giant puzzle that two people need to work together to solve. Let’s be real about this – someone who will always just smile and nod will never be honest with you when you need them to.
If you want to test the waters with a friend you have a crush on, you might try: a) asking a mutual friend (third-party) to find out if the “friend” actually does have romantic feelings (sort of the adult version of sending a note that says "do you like me?yes or no"), b) seeing if the “friend” gets jealous or upset at the sight of you flirting with another person or the thought of you in a relationship with someone else, c) joking or playfully suggesting that there might be a romantic spark between you, or d) spending time apart to see if the “friend” expresses loneliness or misses you.You can have a friendship without a relationship, but you can’t have a relationship without a friendship.Dear Corina, The answer is yes, friends can (and often do) become lovers, although as your question implies, the transition can be somewhat awkward.Dating a friend is widely recognized to be a pursuit fraught with potential complications.
If it works out, great — but if it doesn’t, well, there’s a good chance the friendship won’t survive unscathed.
Interestingly, research has found that romantic relationships do not necessarily differ from close friendships in terms of emotional connection/intimacy, shared activities, or even sex (hence the term “friends with benefits”).
In fact, some researchers have said that the only difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship is the label.
Also, they never win because if everything is then you will never learn what will make your partner happier and therefore never be able to work on it. Have you ever had a friend who you can go weeks, months, or even years without seeing – but when you do finally get together again it’s like nothing has changed?
Having this type of honesty is essential to a relationship – just always keep in mind friends are never degrading or discouraging, either. Imagine that kind of closeness, that kind of understanding, that kind of comfort, with someone who you are also in love with.
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