Their answers help me tailor a program that helps them attract their ideal match.
Lesson one: online dating requires you to know what you want.Aware that e Harmony – the dating site known as most successful for marriages – has a 90-minute questionnaire, I started here.I know many really smart people, including my son, who don’t have high degrees, and many people with a Ph. I could manage the vertically challenged thing, but there was no spark. ’ shares my friend from the UK, via Whats App.‘I’ve been matched with a 24-year-old woman who is looking for a man or a woman.I had selected men in the age range 28–41, and was paired with quite a few.
But I was slightly disappointed with the options I was being given: too old, too young; too invested in believing in ‘the one’ rather than the best ones.
I’d had serious relationships in the past, and the main feedback my pastors had given me was not that I wasn’t ready for marriage, nor wouldn’t make a great wife, but that I simply didn’t know what I wanted.
Enter online dating: engines asking you more questions than an inquisitive 6-year-old.
In terms of attraction, when you connect deeply at this level, attraction can grow. Ladies, you can’t do anything about the men who want a midlife-crisis-Barbie-Doll.
So stop looking for super hot chemistry and butterflies when you first meet. Ignore those men, and seek out the guys who want a relationship with someone they can relate to. Truly.◊♦◊Guys, if you’re comparing all the women you date to your ex, or you’re still blaming her for your problems, please get therapy and work this stuff out.
The research also showed that 5% of Americans who are married or in a committed relationship said they had met their significant other online.