The chances of finding a legitimately single expat male in Uganda are few and far between – and Lord knows we look. The instruction was clear: there’s a hierarchy here, based on how long you have been in the country. His wife’s working in the UK for a few months.” I shouldn’t have been shocked, but I was. “That’s not what I’m looking for.” My friend didn’t say anything.My female friends and I were at a party one night when an attractive guy turned up – without female company. It’s quite common to be invited to a house party or barbecue, to find it two thirds single women. It was obvious by his look that I am on a hiding to nothing. She abruptly turned her back on me before I could get a chance to say hello. At the time, I put her rudeness down to her not being interested in someone who had just arrived in the country; nowadays, understanding the small pool of expats here, I believe she felt threatened by me, the single woman. You can follow Charlotte on Twitter @Charlie Beau and read her blog, Diary of a Muzungu at
• Life in Uganda: a dog named Baldrick and a mouse in my fridge • My balmy (and barmy) Christmas in a Ugandan forest Single expat ladies find it difficult to embark on a committed relationship with an expat.
Ugandan ladies are incredibly beautiful, and many are looking for a white man, so the average expat male has a choice of his “wife back home” and “my African wife” – a phrase I heard dropped into a recent conversation.
Girls living in Uganda face a number of challenges that can impact their well-being, development and future.
Those attending school often face gender bias and discrimination in textbooks, the curriculum, and from the teachers themselves.
Marrying them off to a warlord or other authority figure is seen as a form of protection.
The minimum age of marriage in Uganda is 18 for both girls and boys, but a girl can marry at 16 with parental consent.
One of my friends returned to the UK just to find a boyfriend, and it’s not a bad idea. "I met him at a party of yours; he seems fun.” “He’s spoiled goods. I bumped into a British expat acquaintance and his wife at a bar one night. (The last thing I’m interested in is sleeping with your husband. Friends tease me for going out with younger men, but younger men’s love lives are less complicated; they are less likely to be married.
When she had been on holiday in London, she found no end of available dates, but here in Kampala? At a function of expat old-timers, I asked a married male friend of mine to find me a boyfriend.
Limited access to education for girls and traditional and social norms which dictate that girls are married at a young age in order to fulfil their role as a wife and mother, play a role too.
In addition, displaced population living in refugee camps often feel unable to protect their daughters from rape.
On 16 June 2015, the Government of Uganda launched the African Union Campaign to End Child Marriage and its first ever National Strategy on Ending Child Marriage and Teenage Pregnancy (2014/2015 – 2019/2020), which was developed in partnership with civil society organisations, including members in Uganda, and UN agencies.