Just like with any place you go, you have your good guys and your bad guys.” “During my first couple of years here, I encountered a lot of guys whose interest in me came purely from the fact that I was foreign.
They wanted to know all about Puerto Rico and always brought up the fact that one day, I’d return to my own country.” “Now that I’m older, I still come across a lot of men who seem interested in dating a foreigner for language reasons.
Even after we’d been broken up for a few months he’d still write to me and ask what I was doing and how I was …” When I started dating my husband, I didn’t really feel that we had any cultural barriers.
However, the deeper things went, the more difficult it was to understand each other.
Even when we broke up it was long and drawn out and he wanted to ‘stay friends’ which I’ve heard is what most Japanese guys like to do.
He doesn’t expect me to cook Japanese food and he doesn’t measure me by my miso soup making skills (I’ve gotten told by MANY people that my husband will basically judge me on my miso soup).
We do have a lot of trouble communicating when we fight and again I’m not sure if it’s a language issue, culture, or just us …” “I actually have a big problem with people prefacing their relationships with their significant other’s ethnicity. And I hate it when people act like I won a prize or ‘got’ something special because he’s Japanese. him.” “Every guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with has been different from the last, but I suppose dating a Japanese guy has the added spice of major cultural differences, as opposed to just differences in hobbies or upbringing.
There is a good chance that he will like you too, and just not have imagined that you could possibly be interested in him.
A lot of Japanese men seem to have an inferiority complex (many of my Japanese male friends have told me this), so they might not imagine that any non-Japanese woman would ever be interested in them. ” “He was just a gaijin-hunter, so that didn’t go to well.
Instances of Western women and Japanese men forming bonds are becoming more common and some dating sites even help people to find these matches.
However, it's important to remember that men who grew up in an another culture can have different characteristics to Western men.
He wouldn’t learn any English and it was really frustrating to communicate only in Japanese.
At first I was happy about this, because I wanted to speak Japanese.
These are the types of guys I feel we foreign girls encounter most. ” I think that’s generally a big problem – not only when trying to find an “honest” relationship, but also true friends.