The entire family picked up and moved abroad and her husband became a stay-at-home dad.
Military couples can't plan anything in advance -- not even their kids' birthday parties -- which can continually test their marriages.
“Before I could plan my son's fifth birthday party next month, my husband had to put a request in to make sure he would not be put on duty that weekend and miss it,” Perkins said.
"My wife did not want to go through the process of releasing those duties only to be thrust back into them again at a moment’s notice. Married service members can't share details of their work with their spouses, which can be frustrating to both partners.
This strain of that coming and going is amplified in a military family." 8. When most spouses come home, they swap stories about their days.
It's especially hard on men who are socialized to get such a large part of their sense of self from their careers." But, just because the career of a military spouse takes precedence at one point, that doesn't mean it always will.
"Marriage is about sacrifice, about one person's job taking precedence right now, with the understanding that the other spouse’s needs will take precedence in the future," Di Silverio said."Ever try moving 4,000 miles with three kids, a very pregnant wife and a large dog with only six weeks' notice? You either learn to work together or you break apart trying.” 6.The logistical aspects of being a military spouse can be a welcome distraction from the fact that your spouse could die at any moment.Now, Di Silverio writes mystery novels and parents her kids full time. Even though she expects to earn her master's degree this year, employers seem to be more interested in speaking about job opportunities to her husband, who retired from the Navy in 2010."Whenever folks learn that I am the wife of a military veteran, they always ask for my husband to be the person that they hire," she said.Many people think that coming home is the best part, Phyfe said.