I am constantly amazed with the quality of people that I meet through online dating.
The biggest benefits of online dating, as I see them, are:– The more targeted matchmaking algorithms that help you connect with likeminded/aligned/compatible people– Access to far more potential romantic interests in a much smaller window of time (efficiency and volume)– Multiple levels of communication to allow you to ease into conversations with varying degrees of commitment while avoiding embarrassing situations (viewing 50 people in an evening with online dating? Approaching 50 attractive strangers in a bar/dinner party?
Much more challenging for most people.)– The variety of dating websites that can help you connect with people that might have more niche interests (i.e.
But one thing that comes up, time and time again, that I see my clients stressing out about is the level of detail and optimization that they put into the written part of their profiles.“Does this joke make sense? And you could tell by the look on my face that I had BIG news for you.
That news was that I had ten million dollars for you (no strings attached, no taxes would come off of it…
but I believe that it’s absolutely essential to discuss before I start going into how to set up a profile, how to go from messaging to first date, etc. The sharpness of your axe is the quality and honesty of your online dating profile.
Much of the strategy that follows is based on this principle. Depending on what specifically you’re looking for in a partner, there is a different strategy for different people as to which dating site they should be using.
Not everyone that you meet/message/interact with online is going to be your next spouse, but there is quite a lot of fun to be had while searching for soul mates online.
While no single method for finding a partner is without it’s drawbacks, the percentage of people who meet their partner via online dating is skyrocketing and there’s a reason for that.
OKCupid, Lava Life, and Plenty Of Fish also have a lot of users and have somewhat overlapping user bases (in terms of the demographic that they each serve).
Other websites also have relatively large user bases (JDate, Christian Mingle, etc.) but they have unique niches attached to them.
As of the time of me writing this article, I’ve been a professional relationship coach full time for the past seven years.